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Thankful I Was Raised Right as a Child

Thankful I Was Raised Right as a Child

Something really hit me last night.  It angered me at first, and still does, but now, I am more thankful and grateful for the upbringing I had. More sorrowful for the upbringing others did not.

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a piece of black wood with the words be thankful

As you may or may not know, when a child has a disability, the parents of that child have 2 choices.  They can either overprotect the child. Doing all for him, sending messages that they aren’t able to do anything because of the disability, that they will always need someone to do those things for them.  They place that child in a bubble that is totally opposite of reality and the real world.  The sad thing for that child is that he or she grows up not understanding what the world is like, not able to live or cope in the real world.  One day, when mommy and Daddy are gone. Then either the rest of the family and friends get fed up with taking care of this grown-up child, because they are not as committed as the parents were in doing it, or they are also gone. That child is totally lost and perplexed with no one to step in and take over where the caretakers left off.

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Then, there’s the other choice the parents of a child with a disability has.  This, thankfully, was the choice my parents made, especially after my dad came into the picture.  You see, my biological dad left when I was 4.  I was blessed because he disowned me.  Blessed, because he did not care to be a father to me in any way, shape, or form.  The father my mother remarried chose me, adopted me.  It’s sort of like how God adopts us into his family.  But I digress.  My mom leaned toward the protective side of things until he came into the picture and insisted that I could do almost anything I put my mind to.  I wasn’t allowed to use my blindness as an excuse.  I didn’t like it for a long time, until adulthood.  There were a lot of things I resented about my childhood.  Things I could tell you that may have been handled wrong, feelings that were hurt, but as I have since learned, were never intended to be hurtful.  I have made peace with my parents through all of it, and I honestly don’t wish to even mention any incident that hurt me in the past, because what’s the point?  We have moved on, I feel close to them now, and I appreciate the motives behind the actions.

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My father may have had very high expectations of me, maybe too high in some respects, but now, looking back and seeing the other side of the coin, I would rather have had that than the other way around, me sitting around moping and wallowing in self pity, unwilling to try anything because, well, everyone has led me to believe I can’t do it anyway.  Instead, I was told to try it, that it was wrong not to try.  Now, I so appreciate it.  Thank you, God, for giving me parents that pushed me so that now, I don’t let blindness stop me.  Thank you, Mom and Dad, for having faith that I could accomplish more than I even thought possible, and for still believing that I could accomplish more than I even now think is possible, if I but take that step of faith.  And even if I can’t, in my own strength, with God’s help, I surely can, if it is His will for me to accomplish whatever it may be.

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Are there things in your childhood that were hurtful, but that God has brought about for your good?  Are there people now that you can thank for things they did to help you grow, that maybe at the time, you weren’t so thrilled with them doing?  Please share in the comments and message me anytime.

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touch them. Except I am trying not to touch them too much, because I was raised right. Ellie Kemper on The Office In 2007, she appeared in How to Kick People
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